So if you noticed whilst trawling social media yesterday, you will have seen this Blue Monday thing. I’m guessing its when people reportedly say they are blue – and not because they have been in the cold for too long (my mum didn’t laugh when I said it either) but I guess because their motivation is at an all time low.
I guess when you think about it, theres lots of things happening that could get you down. Christmas is over, there’s no excuse now for getting out the cheese and biscuits 4 times a day, or drinking copious amounts of wine over a 5 day period. You realise how much you spent over Christmas, payday still isn’t here and you’re struggling to motivate yourself with your new fitness plan, as you battle with the cold and dark that fills up pretty much half the day. It’s not surprising really that this has lead to this so-called Blue Monday. (as well coz Monday’s are pretty bad apparently according to social media). So yeah, add the Monday feeling to the mix and BAM Blue Monday.
On the contrary, Blue Monday may not even have affected you. I guess it’s all about having your shit together. Which, (in you’re 20’s) is pretty darn hard no? (More on this later) So if you are none the wiser with this Blue Monday thing (i’m almost sick of calling it that now), I applaud you. You must officially have your shit together.
Blue Monday for me didn’t feel any different really to any other day this month, (don’t know if thats a good or a bad thing). I had nothing planned for the day so sleeping in was easy. I learnt that if I don’t set an alarm (or as the case was this morning, even if I do) I won’t wake up until about 2pm. Which really isn’t okay. But it’s okay for me because I’m ‘recovering’. Hmm no, it’s still not okay to me. This can only mean 2 things: 1. I need to sort out the alarm situation on my phone; and 2. My shit is almost definitely not together.
I think we all have a ‘Blue Monday’ day now and again. When you really have to force yourself to get up and get moving, with the cold and the comfyness of your duvet going against you. (Why are beds so much more comfortable in the mornings anyway?!) And without any concious effort, any plans you made for the day seem unimportant or pointless. If I could get rid of two things in the world, it would be cancer, and this feeling (without getting too dramatic). Especially when you let it consume you. You know you have to get up, but your mind has other plans. It takes so much effort and energy to go against your own mind and get up to start whats left of the day. The reason why this can be so hard is something I’ll never understand. I read somewhere that people who easily wake up early in the morning are the ones who are most enthusiastic about life. I think there is some truth in that. But why are we unenthusiastic? We live in the first world, we have everything we need, and more, but this still isn’t enough. At the end of the day (sometimes literally) we can’t get up and face the world. Our life.
Ok so the post has taken a completely different turn to what I had planned but oh well. Moving on..
So what i’m trying to say is, getting up on a January morning has got to be one of the hardest things ever. For a mental health sufferer or not. Especially if you wake up late, because you start with the negative thought of guilt. You have let yourself waste the day. The worst thing you can do is beat yourself up. Ok you overslept. Okay. Okay it’s becoming a habit. Thing is, (and here’s the tricky part) you have to fight it. Fight the part of your mind that wants to just sleep the world away and hibernate. Get back that control. For some reason, we have this morning battle (I wish I knew why) and yeah, its shit but you just need to fight.
It’s crazy to think that getting up for some people is just something you really don’t pay attention to, whereas to some people (like me) it’s like this massive thing.
Ok so this is a really long ramble, (sorry!).
So if you find yourself having a Blue Monday, any day, first thing, don’t beat yourself up. It’s okay, just don’t give into your mind. Get up and go for that run. It might be a nice day. It might be a lovely feeling running in the crisp air with the sun shining. Embrace it. You might even find yourself enjoying it as you chase the sun in the pavement. You’ll soon realise that nothing comes without hard work. Not even getting up in the morning, you need to work for it. Find that motivation for the thing you want to do and make it worth it. Accept you find this harder than others but deal with it in your own way. And it’s okay to have a Blue Monday even when you are up. It’s okay if all you accomplish in the day is a run and a blog post, or a trip to the supermarket, followed by Netflix and mini eggs (and no it is not too early).
Whether you suffer from anxiety and depression or not, these days might happen. The trick of it is to not give in to the badger in your mind wanting to hibernate. And even if you don’t know what you’re doing that day, the next day, where you’re going in your life (again, more on this later) just reassure yourself that even on a Blue Monday, you do have your shit together after all. (At least, a little bit.)
You just need to fight for it.