We’ve all done it. Even for a split second, tried to imagine what things would have been like if something did or didn’t happen. I guess it’s in our nature. What a thought, if we had the chance to go back in time with the power to change something from happening… in order to change the way things panned out. I wonder what things would be like now.. I guess we can only imagine. And hope that it makes us feel better.
They say that everything happens for a reason. It’s up to us to figure out what that reason is. But it’s frustrating, because what if we don’t believe that the reason will benefit us more in the long run? That we’d prefer to have it the other way. We know we’re probably being selfish but we yearn for it so much that being selfish doesn’t really matter. Maybe we just have to have faith that it will, and that if we don’t feel it has benefited us that ‘reason’ just hasn’t happened yet. Maybe that’s why people follow religion, so they have that faith that there is a reason to everything, that with happiness comes sorrow, that things have to happen to set other things in motion, to follow a ‘grand plan’. Maybe. We’ll leave that for another day.
So instead of asking ourselves “What would have happened IF?” we should be asking ourselves why we’re asking that in the first place. Even if you’re not religious you can still have that faith that that ‘outcome’ we’re after is yet to happen, just maybe not in the way we might think. Maybe it’s us that need to act, not miracles or special gifts.
Something I heard the other day: “Everything turns out ok in the end. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.”…